Valentine’s Day is coming and for some people it brings with it a celebration of love and romance. But for others, romance is the last thing on their minds. If you have a low sex drive or no sex drive, the pressure to be romantic makes Valentines’ Day uncomfortable. You may want to show your sweetheart how much you care, but you just don’t feel it.
There are many reasons for low libido and some of them are not obvious. Find out if any of the sex drive killers below are ruining your Valentine’s Day plans.
SEX DRIVE KILLERS
Alcohol: While a glass of alcohol may get you in the mood, too much alcohol numbs your body and kills your sex drive. Moderation is the key to romance. Limit your alcohol consumption on date night. If you are worried you drink too much, contact me for help. Acupuncture can relieve addictions and control cravings.
Drugs: Some medications can adversely affect your libido. Drugs commonly associated with this include antidepressants, blood pressure medications, chemotherapy, anti-HIV drugs, synthetic progesterone and narcotic pain medicines. If you take any of these medications and suspect they are suppressing your sex drive, contact your doctor.
Stress: When you are stressed your body releases adrenal hormones and cortisol to give you energy and prepare your body to address the stressor. Getting energy is good, but there is a downside. These same hormones also tense your muscles, slow digestion, raise blood pressure and reduce sensitivity to pain. In other words, stress prepares your body for fight or flight—but not romance. If you want a healthy love life, you need to control your stress. Acupuncture helps reduce the symptoms of stress and balances your body. Ironically, sex is an excellent antidote to stress. So if you’re feeling stressed, put your worries aside and plan a special Valentine’s Day date with your loved one.
Relationship Problems: Lingering arguments, lack of intimacy and unresolved issues can kill your sex drive. This is particularly true for women because many women need emotional closeness to feel sexual desire. Resolve arguments before date night. If relationship issues regularly interrupt your love life, find a coach, counselor or minister to help.
Parenting: Parenting is a full-time job and many couples find it hard to give attention to their sex life while meeting the demands of raising children. It’s hard to find the time and energy for intimacy. However, prioritizing your relationship as a couple nourishes your relationship as parents. Your children will benefit when you both feel close. Sometimes, finding time for your love life is all about strategy. If your kids don’t sleep at night and keep you awake, bring them in for acupuncture/shonishin. Sleeping children can give you the quiet moments you need to connect.
Psychological Issues: Depression, sexual abuse, anxiety and other psychological issues can affect your sex drive. On top of that, many anti-depressants can decrease libido as well. Seek help to address these issues and discuss your concerns openly with your doctor to find a treatment plan that is right for you. Acupuncture can help relieve depression and anxiety and, most importantly, build a feeling of vitality.
Insomnia: Without enough sleep you end up tired, crabby and definitely not romantic. Worry, busyness, sleep apnea or just plain not allowing enough time for sleep can all have a negative effect on your love life. Schedule time to sleep every day and resist the urge to reduce your sleep to get things done. A good example of this is to commit to turning off all electronics at a certain time, say 8pm, and then helping your body wind down from those stimulations and the day’s activities. Turn down the lights in your house, get into bed around 9pm, read a book (not a handheld device!), and then lights out by 10pm. Repeat this every day, and soon enough, your circadian rhythm will start to work again and you will naturally start to get sleepy around 9pm. Give your body this chance to naturally unwind with no external stimulus. Also don't eat, especially carb-heavy meals, after 7pm. Let your digestion do its job well before you go to sleep. Digesting and sleeping are two contradictory energy forces within your body: one is trying to be active, the other is trying to shut down. Contact me if this still protocol doesn’t help. Acupuncture treats insomnia quite successfully.
Physical Issues: There is a long list of physical complaints that can reduce your sex drive. Erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, menopause, pregnancy and other sexual issues can reduce your libido, but many non-sexual illnesses and conditions affect it as well. Obesity, thyroid issues, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary artery disease and neurological diseases can all affect your sex drive—even a sore back can result in low libido. Many of these can be treated successfully, both medically and with acupuncture. Don’t assume you need to live with low libido.
ACUPUNCTURE BOOSTS YOUR LIBIDO
Of course, acupuncture can’t get you a date on Valentine’s Day, and it can’t call a sitter for the kids, but acupuncture can help your Valentine’s Day in many ways. Acupuncture directly addresses the cause of your low libido by:
- Relieving addictions and reducing cravings.
- Reducing the symptoms of stress and rebalancing your body.
- Helping your children sleep.
- Relieving anxiety and depression.
- Relieving insomnia.
- Addressing a long list of libido-killing physical complaints, from vaginal dryness, erectile dysfunction and low testosterone to chronic pain, hypothyroidism and others.
Most of all, acupuncture boosts your energy and builds a feeling of vitality. Enjoy a Valentine’s Day celebration with your sweetheart with energy and excitement. Contact the office for an appointment today.